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Nancy Shanteau

Nancy Shanteau (she/her) is the lineage bearer for Skills for Change Coaching. She is a Master Somatic Coach and the founder of the Folkloom School, the home of the Skills for Change Coaching Certification Program. A settler who lives and works in Nevada County, CA, unceded Nisenan land, Nancy practices Relationship Anarchy and Solo Polyamory, identifies as pansexual and aromantic, and is a white multi-ethnic, non-binary woman. Dedicated to radical, empowering education, Nancy has been teaching and coaching since 2004. “I believe people need safety and a feeling of connection and love in order to change. In a good teaching relationship, the teacher becomes engaged in your dream, and provides support, strength and vision to help you achieve it.”

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About this course

"Circles of Connection." Illustration by Patrick Stein (c)2020

Life is full of ups and downs. In addition to all the ordinary hardships of grief, loss and disappointment, we might face extraordinary oppression, violence, and suffering from human and environmental catastrophes.

To survive and hopefully to thrive, we need to know who we trust, and what our relationships make possible. 

The relationships in our lives are the foundations for how we connect, share, create, grow and love. We thrive in relationships based on trust. Fostering our relationships can make all the difference in our satisfaction, feeling of support, and ability to make things happen. 

When we experience scarcity of community, we are fundamentally less able to deal with the challenges we face. When we share our joy, it is increased a hundred-fold by the loving reflections we receive from those around us.

This course will help participants build meaningful, trust-based relationships. You will increase your clarity about what you want, your ability to communicate, and the depth of intimacy and connection you share with the people you love. You will design your life to reflect your interests, goals, dreams and passions.

In other words, you will get to do the things you want with the people you love!

We will embark together on a five-week exploration of our values, vision for a future self, and a mission for growth. We will consider who is already in our lives, and who might be missing. If we need to step back from a relationship, or increase our boundaries with a particular behavior, we can explore how to communicate and embody our desires and limits. We will practice asking for 100% of what we want and negotiating agreements with the people we love.


Because this course is all about relationships, I want to make sure no one is left out. So I've designed a pricing approach that allows me to help as many people as possible.

Each participant who pays full price can invite a buddy to participate. When you enroll, you will receive an email asking you to send the contact information for your buddy. That person will receive an invitation to the course at no additional charge. You can split the cost, or share the course as a gift with a loved one. In addition, each full price participant will open up a scholarship slot for someone who can't afford to pay for the course.

Scholarships will be awarded as course signups occur. I hope this design offers a strong incentive to sign up early -- this way I can let people know as soon as possible whether they have received a scholarship. Apply for a scholarship to participate in Build Meaningful Relationships here.

Each week, participants will receive short videos paired with activities such as journaling, creative projects, and conversational prompts to support implementation and integration. There will be a weekly Q&A call on Wednesdays from 10 - 11:30 am PT starting November 18.

The course activities will be supplemented with group connection via a private Build Meaningful Relationships Facebook group. Participants will have opportunities to share responses to prompts, and participation will be rewarded with exciting, creative weekly prizes. At the end of the course, there will be a grand prize. Everyone will have a chance to win, and the winner will have completed all the course activities by the deadlines. Hopefully the prizes will help you stay connected to the course activities and community conversation so that we can learn together and have fun at the same time!

Full Price: $495

Early Sign-Up Bonus! 
Participants who sign up by Friday, November 13 will receive access to two special bonus calls: the first will be on Saturday, November 14  from  10 - 11:30 am PT, and the second will be on Saturday, January 2 from 10 - 11:30 am PT. These bonus calls will help participants make the most of the course.

This is the first time I'm offering Build Meaningful Relationships. Participants will be instrumental in creating both this course, and also a connected community experience through the collective experience of exploration, learning and growth. May our relationships deepen and grow in love, satisfaction and resilience. I hope you'll join us!

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