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Nancy Shanteau

Nancy Shanteau (she/her) is the lineage bearer for Skills for Change Coaching. She is a Master Somatic Coach and the founder of the Folkloom School, the home of the Skills for Change Coaching Certification Program. A settler who lives and works in Nevada County, CA, unceded Nisenan land, Nancy practices Relationship Anarchy and Solo Polyamory, identifies as pansexual and aromantic, and is a white multi-ethnic, non-binary woman. Dedicated to radical, empowering education, Nancy has been teaching and coaching since 2004. “I believe people need safety and a feeling of connection and love in order to change. In a good teaching relationship, the teacher becomes engaged in your dream, and provides support, strength and vision to help you achieve it.”

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About this course

Calling all radical change makers...

It's Time To Align Your Work With Your Values & Build Powerful Communities

Get Certified as a Cooperative Communication Practitioner!

I don’t know about you, but… I want to live in a world where our efforts to communicate create connection and feelings of being loved, heard and understood. I want us to feel confident when we speak our truth, and I want others to feel safe being vulnerable with us. I want our conversations to support us to successfully co-create our dreams in partnership and in community. I want our words to build trust, so that our conflicts help us grow stronger together

Do you feel frustrated when your attempts to communicate instead result in disconnection, heartbreak and isolation?  Or when you watch others struggle to communicate in their conversations and relationships? 

Do you wish you could do meaningful work instead of feeling drained in a dissatisfying job?

So often, when we finally share our feelings, we have waited too long, and what we say often reflects our fear, anger and desperation more than our positive desires. When these patterns of hurt and fear turn into disagreements and arguments, often we end up speaking from our survival reflexes and beliefs, rather than from our vulnerability, life-affirming values and optimism for the future

We’ve seen communities both come together and fall apart due to crisis

And, if you’re here, there’s a big chance, like me, you want more communities to come together

When you become a good communicator (and train your community to conduct successful conversations!), you’re building collective power and the ability to join forces instead of dissolving into conflict and disconnection

My biggest vision for all of us is to experience communication that helps us share our feelings, cooperate and grow so that we feel close, connected, and supported. We can learn to be accountable for our impact, repair successfully, and when necessary embody empowered boundaries. And I want all of us to have access to work that connects us both to our radical practices, and also helps us survive late-stage capitalism

Hi, I’m Nancy. Over the past 17+ years, I’ve coached and taught thousands of people to build loving, supportive and powerful relationships. Now I want to offer you the peacefulness that comes from knowing how to speak your truth and listen with compassion to other people's vulnerability

I built my own full and successful practice as a radical practitioner of Skills for Change and Cooperative Communication, and I'm ready to share what I know with you so you can do it too!

Put an end to feeling exploited 🛑
...commit to work that makes a difference... ✅
...not just in how we respond to change...
...but in the direction we're headed as a collective... 🌏


The 2023 Cooperative Communication Practitioners Certification Program Intensive

Inside this 35-hour Intensive Practitioner Certification Program you’ll discover the Skills for Change Cooperative Communication tools and methods — to help you self regulate, express your vulnerability, build trust, shift from defensiveness to curiosity, and skillfully communicate beyond conflict 

Here's how we do that:

Step 1: In order to communicate successfully, we need to know when to talk and when to pause. We'll begin with tools to help you regulate emotions, center yourselves and de-sensitize anxiety. We'll identify when you've entered a flooded fight-flight-freeze-dissociate state, and help you make a recovery plan that restores your baseline resourceful state

Step 2: We’ll explore how power affects transactions, and how to identify when cooperation is possible. You'll locate yourself in your wise adult consciousness so your communication is calm and effective

Step 3: Our obstacles to cooperation often lie in our internalized oppressive beliefs. You'll learn to shift from defensiveness to curiosity

Step 4: Compassionate listening starts with ourselves. You'll learn to forgive yourself, embody empowered boundaries, let go when needed and negotiate cooperative agreements

I'm a very responsive and flexible teacher. I use these communication tools in my own life. I know what works and what doesn't, and I'm here to help you decide when to talk, versus when it's time for action more than words. 

I'm also here to help you learn and grow as a practitioner, so you can bring these tools to your own relationships and to the lives of your clients

Enroll because you love it ----> here

This classroom is open access which means you can move through the materials at your own pace. Each video leads to an Action Learning Step that supports your practice and embodiment of the materials

Module 1) Introduction to Cooperative Communication


  • What is Self Regulation and how do we achieve it?
  • The simple step-by-step "Clearing Held Feelings & Stories" Process
  • How to use Observable Facts to create connection instead of separation in conversation
  • De-sensitize your anxiety with these simple techniques

Module 2) Empowered Transactions


  • Why the cultivation of  Wise Adult Consciousness is crucial to understanding how power affects our communication
  • How sharing your Story-Free Feelings helps other people understand you better

Module 3) The Stories We Tell:


  • What you care about holds the key to dismantling your internalized oppressive beliefs
  • Jumping the trip wire: how self-centric stories get in the way of mutual understanding

Module 4) Big Picture Stories:


  • Compassionate listening emerges from our ability to forgive ourselves
  • Who, What, Where, When -- how the underlying social and cultural context changes everything
  • Shift the focus from winning to connecting: unlock the power of validation & nurturance

Module 5) Ask for 100% of What You Want: 


  • Build self trust by sharing your vulnerability
  • Speak your truth with confidence & clarity
  • Listen to others so they feel heard & understood
  • Reflect back what you heard and increase mutual trust

Module 6) Negotiate Cooperative Agreements: 

Level Up:

  • Imagine alternatives to compromise including space, breaks, and additional resources
  • Stop "competing to not lose." Co-create autonomous and cooperative options
  • Your yes & no are the foundation of successful cooperation

Module 7) Bringing It All Together:


  • Analyze any situation using the Clearing Held Feelings and Stories model to identify what happened, how everyone feels, and their stories about it
  • Help clients make Cooperative Communication relevant to their conversations
  • Learn a simple, specific and grounded method for giving Appreciations to your clients and conversation partners

Lock In Your Learning

In addition to the amazing communication skills you'll develop both in your own life and as a practitioner for others...'ll also learn to implement your Cooperative Communication Practice or Program! 

I designed this special "program within a program" because learning to guide a client through a Cooperative Communication session doesn't teach you how to launch and grow your business

To be successful as a Cooperative Communication Practitioner, Facilitator / Trainer, or Certifier... need to know how to:

  • Align yourself with your Mission
  • Identify your Ideal Client
  • Craft an Inviting Offer
  • Generate the right Pricing for yourself and your audience
  • Create an Implementation Plan
  • Refine your final Iteration, and finally...
  • Launch your Cooperative Communication Practice or Program

Huzzah! 🥁🎺 🎶

What You'll Get

Your learning experience will be supported with:

--> 5 days of in-person learning, practice and dialogue

--> 2 additional live Zoom calls where you can get ready for the intensive so we can make the most of our time together

--> A follow-up live Zoom call to catch up in January and reconnect

--> Videos, audio, readings, graphics, worksheets and handouts with Action Learning Steps

--> A digital copy of Access to Power, A Radical Approach for Changing Your Life, written by Julia Kelliher and members of the Skills for Change Collective including yours truly!

---> An opportunity to choose a Committed Listener as your learning partner

---> Facilitator / Trainers & Certifiers will get their own Cooperative Communication Level 1 Online Classroom to customize for their community!

Plus, yes there are BONUSES!

--> 12-hours of live, interaction in the Cooperative Communication 6-Week Online Program Level 1 with Sara Russell  starting on April 14, 2023, with the first call on Thursday, April 20 at 4 pm PT. You'll get a chance to practice the skills and tools in your own life and relationships so you can make the most of the Practitioner Intensive

--> Access to 3 Self-Paced Online Classes: Quiet Mind, Managing Anxiety, and Empowered Boundaries so you have all the self-regulation and boundaries resources you need to make Cooperative Communication work for you 

--> 6-months of the Coaches & Practitioner's Working Group where you can connect with community, ask all your Q's and get 9 additional hours of my focus on you and your practice

--> Customizable email templates for your Cooperative Communication offers

--> A whole extra one-day workshop! I designed the "1-Day to Launch" program to help you implement the Practice Builder steps to launch Cooperative Communication as a Practitioner in your workplace, business, organization or community

and just for Cooperative Communication Trainers:

--> Your own Cooperative Communication Online Level 1 classroom so you can customize it to serve your students' unique needs

It's all designed with YOU in mind -- you choose the best way for you to engage with the materials

I'm investing in your success -- let's build the Cooperative Communication community around the world... together!

The Deets...

We'll meet in person Friday, June 2 - Tuesday, June 6 from 9 - 4 pm in Grass Valley, CA.
Zoom Calls: Fridays May 16 & 26 from 4 - 6 pm PT, and July 14 from 4 - 5 pm PT

Click here if you know you want to enroll. (You know you want to!)

"Nancy has been one of the most significant mentors of my life. Her ability to inspire you to stand in your power and teach complex concepts is phenomenal..." Torin Lee, Skills for Change Coach and Communications Consultant

Full-Pay Price: $1995
Payment Plan: $333 per month for 6 months
Equity Price*: $997
Equity Price* Payment Plan: $167 per month for 6 months

* Equity Price is meant to increase access for folks who face barriers. Scholarships are also available -- please inquire if you need a scholarship to attend

Or, if you'd like to discuss it further with our team, sign up for an Empowerment Session to determine if the Cooperative Communication Practitioners Certification Program is the right choice for you

I'm excited to get to know you. It'll be fun, and super score(!), you'll be empowered as a Practitioner to bring Cooperative Communication tools to your conversations at home, work and in your community

Let's DO this!